How to boost your Charisma

Here are 4 top methods to help boost your charisma…

1. Have goals you are working towards

There are a lot more followers than leaders. There is nothing wrong with being a follower, but people are naturally drawn to leaders. Set yourself goals to work to. Have a sense of purpose and a vision - a big goal that you are working towards. You may or may not succeed to meet your goal, or it might change over time, but if you always have one, people will naturally feel drawn to you as you present the possibility of an exciting future. Don’t simply pretend to have a goal as people will quickly see through you and you will lose all credibility. Plus it is far more
satisfying to spend life attempting to meet realistic goals.


2. Love yourself

If you don’t like yourself, how do you expect others to like you? Unknowingly you are constantly giving out thousands of small subconscious clues on how to treat you, and it all begins with treating yourself right. You need to learn to appreciate that you are a unique and valuable human being. Accept yourself as you are. It’s okay to have flaws and work on improving them. Indeed the most charismatic people on earth are the ones with tons of flaws. Someone who is perfect is not really all that interesting anyway! Love yourself and others will soon follow suit.


3. Be honestly interested in others

You must have met many people who talk incessantly about themselves? This may be O.K. at first, but after a while it becomes very tiresome and you just want to avoid them. Charismatic people appreciate other people just as much as they appreciate themselves. Relax and listen properly to what other people are saying. Give them space to talk. You will learn new interesting things, and they will notice and appreciate that you actually listen to them. The Chinese have a saying which is "You have two ears and one mouth – use them in that proportion." Some people do actually struggle concentrating on listening to others, and become anxious that they may forget what they are thinking about saying. Relax, allow that thought to disappear, and listen. This thought will return if it is still relevant. With a little practice listening becomes much easier, and you will enjoy far more productive two way conversations.


4. Model someone who you consider very charismatic

Hypnotherapists and NLP practitioners often very successfully utilise this technique. It could be a friend a celebrity, or even a fictional character that you model. You may wish to be like James Bond for example. Don’t try and copy them exactly, just consider how they would act in the situations you face. You have to sometimes be careful with this as it may not be appropriate to blow the whole building up with your watch! Get a ‘feel’ of a certain character, and how they work on the inside. Try to catch their essence, rather than cloning them. Done with thought and care this can significantly raise your charisma levels.

So remember you must have goals that you are working towards, love yourself, listen to others, and model yourself on other charismatic people. Pretty soon you will notice huge strides in charisma levels, and your success and enjoyment of life will also sour. Now go out there you son of a gun and wow the world with the new charismatic!